i suppose i’ve been having a bit of a self esteem crisis lately. don’t get me wrong- i’m okay. my home life is surprisingly fantastic. my kids are happy with their various extra curricular activities, we’ve made a pledge to get better financially (and it’s working) and my house looks fantastic.
see that? my husband pulled together his creative genius and worker-manliness and built me an entertainment center/bookshelf with a gift card to Lowe’s that we received for Christmas. our little home may only be 800 sq. feet of living space, but by GOD it’s 800 square feet of comfort, class, and most recently- cleanliness.
that’s what i do to relieve stress, you see. i clean. my internet-funk hasn’t receded at all, so yesterday i tied on my proverbial housewife apron, and cleaned the fuck out of my home. i re-arranged, scrubbed, washed, folded, and wiped down everything that needed it. except the windows and blinds. for some reason i have a “thing” for not doing windows and blinds. i don’t know why. anyways, i spent the entire day making my house look pretty enough for me to finally relax in it.
i’m still not feeling 100%… i have 5 lbs on my belly that wasn’t there last year, painful acne on my face (goddamnit, i’m almost 30 years old! this shit shouldn’t be happening to me!) my stomach is increasingly worsening (thanks insurance for denying my prescription, you ASSHOLES) and i’m still wondering if i take my online friendships too seriously.
i know from experience that it’s as easy as the push of a button for a friend you met online to cut you off (it’s been done to me, and yeah- i’ve done it too) and for some reason it really irritates me that i can’t let it go. do i really want to invest any more emotional energy in people that i don’t even really know? *sigh* clearly, my years of living away from civilization has addled my brains. that’s what friendship is all about, isn’t it? nothing worth having comes without emotional risk. i need to just suck it up, let it go, move on, and be happy. cleaning yesterday helped a little- it cleared my brain, worked out my body, and i swear, cleansed my spirit with every bit of dust and dirt that went the way of the trash can.
which brings us to another issue i’ve been having lately.
my own self-worth. i’m worth approximately 1 pre-feminism 20s housewife. i cook, clean, and take care of the kids. the only thing i don’t do is take care of myself. i’m not bemoaning my career choice… we should all go with what we’re good at, and handling matters of the home and hearth are what i’m good at. if i were an inanimate object, i’d be a warm fireplace. or a broom. probably just a broom.
according to feminists, i should be grabbing my own life with my two bare hands. i should get out there, get a career, and NOT be dependent on the man i’ve married. i should have job-skills and education and my own bank account, and not fall neatly into the role of June Cleaver.
no, i don’t bring home a 6-figure paycheck, and to be honest seeing some of my all powerful women friends talk about theirs makes me feel, well, worthless. yes, i depend on a man for every material possession i have.
what my brain knows and my silly hormones haven’t quite figured out yet, is that’s okay.
i am doing what i’m good at… i love being at home with my children. i clean to relieve stress for chrissakes. when it comes to a career, i am being true to myself… i’m doing what i’m best at, what i enjoy the most. i don’t miss working, and until somebody else shoves their paycheck in my face, i don’t miss having my own paychecks either.
feminism is about the power of choice. it’s about me being able to go back to school, and get a job if i wanted to. if i had to. it’s about the fact that i am happy with my life where it’s at. my husband and i have a very co-dependent relationship, and we both realize and appreciate what we do for each other. that’s what it’s about.
feminazi’s may not approve of my “career” choice, but in the end, their opinion isn’t what matters, is it?
and now, if i don’t go play a board game with my son he might actually implode from impatience. have a lovely day.
*interesting observation to leave you with: i was going over my list of blog tags, and saw “forget-me-not friday” and realized- i have no idea what it was all about. lol, how ironic.*