in the back of our minds we all know the dangers of public forums, social networking sites, and public blogging…but when we do it we obviously have decided that the benefits have outweighed the dangers. there are creeps and sad, sick people out there…but we don’t really think about them when we post little tidbits about our lives. most of the people i have met online are very exceptionial people. they are interesting, and kind, and have unbiased ears when i need one, strong opinions that keep life interesting, and their own situations are similar enough to my own that we understand each other and get along just through sheer situation similarities.
my husband once quoted someone else- (don’t remember who originally said this) “any two people can be friends as long as they figure out a reason they need each other”. it is so true- i don’t think all of us on my ivillage message boards would be great friends in real life, but online we can give each other support when we need it, and forge a friendship of sorts.
some people take advantage of things like that…it is so easy to build a castle of lies. one of my previous MILs boyfriends built a castle so elaborate, it rivaled the Magic Kingdom. he had gone through a “fake” divorce… (yes, she dated him for 3 years while he was still married. disgusting, but not my business at the time) one day he told her she finally got a divorce, and for the next 6 months proceeded to update my MIL everyday on the goings on in court. in the end, he said he got his divorce…but after about a month of him still not moving out of his wife’s house, MIL did some digging and found out that he never obtained that divorce. he even went to far as to call MIL on his cell, and tell her that they’re waiting for his wife to show up in court, because she’s late. oh, boy it was a mess. it was pathetic and disgusting. and because of that, i have some small experience with the type of hoaxes that can occur in our daily lives. people you trust, people you have known for years can turn out to be something they’re not, and it is SCARY. maybe that’s why i’m so paranoid?
anyways, for you ladies who are visiting me from ivillage, and are curious about the situation on the boards but don’t have an account on facebook, here is the situation. (i copied the message from facebook)
Hi ladies. I’ve decided to come here with this info rather than post directly on IV, mainly because I haven’t gotten Michelle or Stephanie’s permission, and because I don’t want to start drama. I DO want you all to know though whats going on. I received an email from one of our IV ladies about what was going on with sarah (sarybary) A few of us had doubts about the validity of what was going on, and apparently a lady on the Loss of an Infant board called her on it. Here is a copy of the post, which has since been deleted….
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I don’t know what to say…
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Mar-20 3:20 pm
I posted this before and it got deleted, and then I got an email from Ivillage about “disrupting” the boards!
Well, I’m gonna post again and if it gets deleted then whatever. You don’t have to ban me, I will leave voluntarily after this. I’m not the one who should be getting reprimanded here, as *I* have done nothing wrong. I am just trying to warn unsuspecting people and protect them from this BS.
Sarah,
I (and some other members) know that your stories are false.
There is absolutely NO record of you at Duke Uni hospital. No record of Rose Marie’s birth, or death. *to make an extremely long story short*
I called down to Duke because I wanted to send a meal and bottle of wine and some flowers and a card. All I wanted was a room number and they insisted on patching me through to the patient’s room.
They had NO patient there by the name of Sarah L**** or any patients named Sarah period. I asked them about the 24 week old premature baby who was born with the immune disease SCID. Surely they would know who I was talking about. Well, it turns out that they haven’t had any babies who suffer from SCID in “quite some time” as the nurse puts it and also, SCID isn’t diagnosed until about a month or 2 AFTER the baby has been born. It’s unheard of to find out during pregnancy. She also assured me that the only babies in the NICU were there because of feeding or temperature problems and the only seriously sick baby there was born with his bowels and intestines on the outside of the body and was awaiting surgery.
Also, the picture of the baby she sent is clearly NOT a 24 week 1lb 1oz baby. It is at least a 32-33 weeker who weighs at least 3lbs. That same baby’s picture was found while doing a google search for premature babies. So, the image was stolen.
If the hurricane katrina superdome story wasn’t enough to get you wondering. This should be.
If anyone has any other questions or would like further proof. my email address is lexi_mar@ymail.com
i’m kind of limited as to what i can post here, plus i will not be returning here.
Sarah, you need more help than what we can give you here. I hope you seek some from a professional.
And I hope that this doesn’t prevent any new moms from coming here. 99% of the people here are real. You can almost always tell who isn’t. It’s such a shame that those people can’t be called out sooner or without fear. It’s no good for the community to allow people to troll the boards and take attention away from the people who truly need and deserve it.
so that’s it…if you’re wondering what all the hush-hush buzz is about on the boards there you go. all the posts referring to it directly on the boards keep getting deleted, but if you want it spelled out plainly… sarybary’s heartbreaking story on infant loss was a complete and total FABRICATION. she went so far as to create false photobucket accounts with fake pictures stolen from someone else. even the blinkies that were made with the picture of “Rose” were googled and stolen. WOW. *sigh* i just don’t understand why someone would fake something like that… i hope that she seeks help for whatever sad mental condition she has- or her sadistic sense of humor, whichever it is.
and remember, ALWAYS be careful with information about your personal lives on public forums, social networking sites, and blogs.
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